Alone-With-My-Thoughts

Do you believe in soulmates? Why or why not?

Soulmates as in romantic relationships? Soulmates as in friendships? Soulmates as in situationships? Or soulmates as in potato chips?

Let’s start with the definition….A deep, natural affinity, profound compatibility and an instant sense of understanding.

Let’s go with the easiest for me. Potato Chips: Yes I do have a deep love for potato chips. They are my go to when I’m sad. When I’m bored. When I’m happy. I find they bring me comfort. They don’t speak, they don’t discourage, they don’t fight or belittle me. They just allow me to relish in the comfort that they bring.

Now on to a more serious side. Friendships: The older I get, the smaller my circle gets but those friends that I have developed a deep relationship with, I would consider soulmates. Not in a romantic way but with a deep profound sense of respect and love for them in that I would fight a bear for them. (Preferably a teddy bear). They allow my silly side, my happy side, my sad side and my angry side to just exist and shine through without judgment or condemnation. They offer words of encouragement and opinions on views that I may not have sought out. They are some of the most precious people in my life.

Situationships: A little more complex. I have not particularly had a situationship to know whether or not they could be a soulmate. I would be quick to say, if you love and care for someone, why not make it into a relationship? I will leave this one to everyone’s own personal choice.

Lastly, Romantic Relationships: As I look back on my own life, my relationship with my ex husband makes me question if he really was my soulmate. We married very young. Didn’t know how to communicate, educate or truly love each other the way we should/could have. Again, we were VERY young but, for such a long time, he was MY PERSON. He was who I was excited to see. He was the person who I missed when he wasn’t around. He was the person who I loved to hear laugh. He had a smile that could light up a room. The person who held a lot in but was always there to help make others smile. He provided me with a sense of security that is questionable to say the least. Questionable because he had wandering eyes. It just so happened that everything else went with the eyes. He did provide financially and more importantly, he provided a friendship that grew over the years. A friendship so strong that our last words that we spoke before he passed were I Love You. Our romantic relationship was first and lastly one of friendship. So I guess on any given day, yes I do believe in romantic soulmates.

Tomorrow would have been his 59th birthday. I am attaching a picture of our early days and one later in life that depicted our friendship (soulmates). I miss you my friend.