Alone-With-My-Thoughts

Have you ever been around someone who constantly complains? They take very little, if any, responsibility for situations in their life. They continue to do the same thing, day after day, month after month, year after year and then complain when nothing changes. They don’t care to realize that they HAVE made a choice. At times, when others make changes, it causes adverse circumstances for individuals who consider themselves to always be the victim.

Its easy to get caught up in their whirlwind life. Loving those individuals through each and every “situation” is exhausting. You have to learn to set your own boundaries because often those people don’t know boundaries. Keep in mind, the boundaries that you set, comes at a cost some times but, who is going to care for you when you need lifted up? Chances are the individual(s) that you’re setting boundaries for will only see the boundaries as an attack. You’re being mean, you’ve changed, you’re not there for me. You know, the blame game. It’s not my fault. Protecting your own peace isn’t easy. Losing relationships is so hard but, if you don’t protect yourself, who will?

Hopefully after you are able to set boundaries, those individuals will learn that there comes a time in life when you can no longer blame everyone else for the decisions that ultimately, you yourself made.

Being unaware that you are continually being negative and putting the weight of your life’s decisions upon others is part of being mentally and emotionally unhealthy.

I feel you still must love those people but love yourself more. Keeping them afar is better than allowing yourself the mental and emotional drain of them and their actions.

Sometimes, you are the problem. Acknowledging that is hard but I feel it’s part of becoming a healthier version of you. Blessings.